When pleasure becomes an obsession… Sex addiction is one of the dependencies less confessed or visible of all the ones that exist. However, it has increased lately the number of patients seeking help because of the consequences of this sexual disorder, as is to be:
- Economic ruin
- Labor Problems
- Marital problems
Sex addiction can manifest itself in many ways:
- Compulsive masturbation
- Relations with multiple partners – promiscuity
- Encounters with strangers
- Erotic lines
- Sexual harassment
- The sexual rhythm of a sex addict
The frequency with which these people have sex depends on many factors, including their situation, the environment and also the disease stage. There are people who have had more than a dozen different lovers in a few days, no doubt, a case of sex addiction.
Characteristics of sex addiction The main feature of sexual addiction is the inability of the person to control the sex drive. The need to seduce becomes an obsession and, therefore, this provokes sexual impulsive behaviors to calm their anxiety about sex. It is a vicious circle. Other characteristics of sexual addiction include:
- Sex-related obsessions
- Excessive masturbation, even in places or at inappropriate times
- Obsession with sex destroys the peace and happiness in other aspects of life
Sex addicts are great at dissimulating, because they are ashamed of their problem. But often, their dependence is discovered at the end. Some people who suffer from sex addiction decide to ask for help because they want to end the problem which is causing serious discomfort in their lives: separation, divorce, shame, economic instability, anger, frustration, dependency, suffering, legal problems or suicidal ideas among others.
How to end your sex addiction? The treatment of sex addiction is to know and understand the human sexual response. To achieve this approach you must work with determination on three different levels:
Medical Control: It is essential. In most cases, anxiolytics and antidepressants are able to control the sex drive.
Behavioral: Here we work on changing attitudes and control of activities related to sex, as consumption of pornography, erotic lines calls and contact with prostitutes, which try to switch to other sexual stimulus such as sports, entertainment, communication with colleagues and friends, etc.
Psychological: Works changing the negative thoughts that this addiction brings for other that give positivism to the patient. Sex addiction provokes, in determinated occasions, sexual in satisfaction.
Am I a sex addict?
Answering these questions, can help you determine if you have this disease.
Do you hide your sex life, this means, you do not like to discuss it at all, or talk about it whenever you have a problem.
Do you have a double life?
Are you ashamed of your actions because you consider them immoral?
Do you practice sex in strange places or whit unknown people and you feel that you cannot control it?
Do you feel remorse or gilt after a sexual encounter?
Are you unable to sustain a stable relationship because of your sexual conduct?
Do you feel the need to increase the variety and frequency of your sexual encounters?
Do you cheat your partner even with unknown people?
Does your sexual behavior get you in legal troubles (prostitution, obscene phone callsâ€¦)?
If six of your answers where affirmative, seek for professional help, it is possible that you have an unhealthy sex addiction; this can badly affect your life.