How Long Should I Wait to Text Her After the First Date?
Question: I was on a date with a woman the other night and it went pretty well. She definitely had a good time, she even said so herself. I know that I had a good time with her as well. I went home and I had this urge to send her a text message, because I really didn’t want things to end. But, I didn’t actually send one, because I was afraid that maybe it was too soon. What’s your take on how long I should wait to send her a text message after the first date?
My Answer: I don’t really have a one size fits all kind of answer for this question. Because, I don’t think that there really is one. Sometimes sending a woman a text right after the date is actually a good thing to do and sometimes it is not a good thing to do at all. This is something that you kind of have to learn to judge for yourself and accept that you might not always pick the right answer.
What I can say is this:
A lot of it depends on how she really felt after the first date with you. You can’t look at it just from your perspective, you have to be able to look at it from hers. There are times when the guy thinks that it was a perfect first date and if you ask the woman, she has a totally different opinion. If you know for sure that the vibe was really there and that she really had a good time, it might be a good idea to send her a single text message to see how she responds. If it was a bad first date, then you probably don’t want to send her any text messages right away.
This is one of those kinds of situations where you can’t be afraid to test her out a little bit and realize that there is a chance that you might not get the response that you want. A little caveat, though. If you decide to send her a text message the next day, you might want to be careful about sending her a text message when she is at work. That’s not always a good thing to do so you want to have some idea about her schedule so that you don’t try to text her when she is busy or something along those lines.